Few mothers would consider themselves alcoholics. Instead, they identify as busy women taking care of their families, making appointments, shopping for holidays, driving to extracurricular activities, holding jobs, and making healthy meals every day. These busy mothers believe they have earned their drinks and unwind by consuming excessive amounts of alcohol as a reward for being so good at having and managing it all, unaware they are engaging in excessive drinking.
Society and social media tell mothers they need to and can do everything. Mothers multitask and manage multiple roles within the family unit. They are cooks, drivers, cleaners, wives, friends, lovers, and professionals. Social media and societal pressure tell mothers they must do it all or risk being labeled as bad mothers. The constant fear of being labeled a bad mother often pushes women to reach for the bottle to cope with stressful lives.
The mommy wine culture has inundated mothers with pithy slogans like “mommy needs her wine” and “wine is cheaper than therapy.” These slogans normalize excessive drinking as a part of a typical day for busy mothers, leading to a rise in mommy drinking culture. This idea of the “fun mom” with a baby on her hip and wine on her lips does a disservice to mothers, their children, and their families.
When you stop drinking your overall health improves. On the outside, you may notice your skin looking healthier and your eyes brighter. And on the inside anxiety decreases, liver function improves, blood pressure normalizes, and energy levels soar.
Many mothers strive for perfection. They want to be the greatest mother all of the time. They think they must make organic meals, have a spotless home, play with their children all day, and be the best wife and lover. But in reality, despite what social media tells you, being the perfect mother is impossible. This paradox is why many mothers pick up the bottle in the first place. Society needs to take the pressure off of mothers, and more importantly, mothers need to take the pressure off of themselves. It’s ok if the kids eat a frozen meal or the house hasn’t been vacuumed. Managing expectations eases stress and makes it easier to forgo the bottle.